What has happened to common human decency?

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What is wrong with people? Seriously? When I read Daryl’s comment to my post on Waggin Train’s FB page it left me speechless and disgusted. I realize you shouldn’t feed the trolls, but O…M…G…I saw red. Hours later I still can barely put together a coherent statement. My faith in humanity is being chiseled away little by little more and more each day. What possesses someone to make a comment like that? Is it because they’re safely hidden behind a computer screen?

It’s like Jackson Galaxy’s FB post about that cat who attacked it’s owners and trapped them in a bedroom (good for the cat, BTW, it needs new owners). In the comments someone stated that they would have killed the cat. Really? Any true cat lover sees it wasn’t the cat’s fault. The baby pulled it’s tail, it scratched the baby. The big bad man then kicked the cat. The cat snapped…GOOD FOR THE CAT! If you’re not a cat lover or don’t like cats why the hell do you follow Jackson Galaxy’s FB?! I just don’t get it.

Do you seriously have nothing else better to than to just go out of your way to post obnoxious comments? Is your life truly that pathetic? Do parents not teach common human decency anymore? Empathy? Ugh…the world is going to hell in a hand basket….

30 Minute Bacon Double Cheeseburger Beer Cheese Soup

So I figured I’d give http://www.theslowroasteditalian.com/2013/10/Bacon-Double-Cheeseburger-Beer-Cheese-Soup-Recipe-30-Minutes.html The Slow Roasted Italian Bacon Double Cheeseburger Soup a whirl. First off I have to warn you that I almost never measure anything. I just wing it and it drives my mother crazy. Since I’m going to be posting some recipes I’ll try to work on that. This is the recipe I used from The Slow Roasted Italian

Bacon Double Cheeseburger Beer Cheese Soup
serves 8

12 ounces thick cut bacon, uncooked
1 pound lean ground beef
¼ cup all-purpose flour
2 tablespoons Montreal steak seasoning
2 teaspoons smoked paprika
1 (12 ounce) beer (I used Blue Moon) NOTE: I also used Blue Moon
4 cups half and half NOTE: I didn’t have Half & Half so I just used milk
16 ounces mild cheddar cheese, shredded
What I personally added to the mix:
1 Medium onion chopped
2 cloves garlic chopped
2 cups shredded potatoes/hash browns
croutons, pickles, bacon bits (optional garnishes)

Warm an 8 quart pot over high heat. Using clean scissors; cut bacon into pot. Cook bacon until lightly crisp, stirring occasionally. NOTE: I also added a chopped medium onion at this point as well as 2 cloves chopped garlic and 2 cups of hash browns (shredded potatoes).

Add beef into pot. Break beef up with a wooden spoon. Cook until cooked through, stirring occasionally. Drain bacon/beef drippings as necessary; only leave about 2 tablespoons of drippings in the pan. Tip for checking drippings: Scrape all meat to one side, tip pan. Drippings will pool on the side. Use a spoon to remove drippings as necessary.

Stir in flour, seasoning and paprika. Stir until flour is coated. Add beer and scrape the bottom of the pot with a spoon to deglaze the pan, allow to cook for 3 minutes. Add half & half. Stir to combine and bring to a bubble. Add cheese and stir until cheese is melted. Allow to simmer until ready to serve, stirring occasionally.

Garnish with croutons, bacon, pickles, whatever you like on your burger. Enjoy!

Now I personally garnished mine with some sour cream, shredded cheese, and baked onion rings!

All in all it wasn’t bad. Joe liked it. The beer taste was personally too over powering for me. So personally I’d use a different beer next time or only 6 oz. It’s only the 2 of us so I have A TON left, which I’ll probably freeze.

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Family Drama

 

Lately there has been a family feud bubbling on my father’s side of the family.  While it doesn’t involve me at all (didn’t stop me from being blocked from the instigator) it does bother me and I feel the need to voice my view.  This “rogue” cousin has decided to cut her and her children off from her siblings and parents over petty ridiculousness and feels the need to start “drama” under the guise of “preventing” or “fighting” drama that wasn’t there in the first place.  I swear those drama battles are the worst. 

Let me start first my mother was a difficult nightmare dealing with growing up.  Sorry, but she was.  But let me make this perfectly clear, SHE IS STILL MY MOTHER.  No matter what wrongs I feel she dealt me, what mistakes she made raising me, whatever abuses I feel she inflicted on me, she is my mother.  Until the day I DIE she will be my mother.  No matter what I will have a fierce loyalty to my parents.  No matter how much they may piss me off or bring me down.  And it simply baffles me that other people don’t feel the same and can cut their family off over such petty BS. 

There comes a time as an adult that you have to grow above the “wrongs” you’ve suffered or have been dealt.  Your parents are human and everyone makes mistakes.  NO ONE has the answers to anything quite frankly.  There comes a point where you need to forgive, maybe not forget, but at least move on and learn from the situation.  I like to think that when you are able to do this, THAT is when you truly become an adult.  By cutting off your family you’re doing not only yourself, but your children a disservice.  While I don’t agree with some things my mother has done and we may not have the closest relationship, there is not a single solitary doubt in my mind she won’t worship her grandchildren, if/when that time arrives.  I’m also not that spectacularly close to my sister; we rarely get along….ever.  But rob her and my children from the experience of knowing each other just strikes me as so very wrong.   

You’re not always going to hear what you want to hear.  Just like the fact that you don’t agree with whatever your parents did, there will be things YOU do that they will not agree with.  And trust me my parents have NOOOOOO problem letting me know when they don’t like what I’m doing.  But you have to take a moment.  Do they have legitimate concerns?  Yes?  Maybe you should reanalyze what you’re doing.  No?  Well, you’re an adult, you’re on your own, and they’ll get over it.  Yeah you may get all pissed off and not speak for a little while.  But everyone will eventually get over it and you move on.  Why blow things up and open wounds that don’t need to be opened? 

And what truly slays me with the whole situation is that you go out of your way to have a relationship with a CONVICTED CRIMINAL (another cousin) who to THIS DAY is in and out of jail, who has a sick violent record against his OWN RELATIVES.  But you cut your parents and siblings out of your life?!  When something goes wrong will he save you?  Will he support you and your 3 children like your parents have in the past????

YOU distance yourself from everyone one, then when you’re not included you throw a tantrum?  You can’t have it both ways.  You can’t only have what YOU want and to hell with everyone else’s feelings and views.  Especially when those feelings and views are LEGITIMATE CONCERNS!!! 

I’m so beyond far from perfect, and while I personally think my mother could have done things differently, I’m overall happy with how I turned out.  And I hope they’re happy with the person I’ve become as well.  While as an adult I have to make my own decisions, that don’t necessarily reflect my parents’ upbringing, my core values came from my upbringing.  I’m proud of my fierce loyalty, my sense of fairness, my work ethic, etc.  BOTH parents’ successes AND their failures shape their children.  It is up to YOU to take your experiences, good, bad, and ugly and make positive outcomes of them.  It is time to grow up, stop blaming everyone else, and own up to your own decisions.  OWN UP TO THEM, good or bad, you have to stand by them.  You can always change a bad decision, but you have to own it and it will take work. 

Your parents won’t be around forever, and I promise you when they’re gone, whether you still feel your right or not, you’ll regret this.  This isn’t an abuse situation, it’s an ego situation, and you need to get over it.

Let me introduce myself!

 

I guess my first post should probably be an introduction.  My name is Jennifer.  I was born in NJ, and currently live with my Domestic Partner, Joseph, in NEPA.  Well I guess he’d be my fiancé since we’re getting married in Oct (for some reason the whole concept feels strange to me), even though we kind of just skipped the whole “engagement” thing.  We’ve been living together for 6 years; we’ve owned our home together for 4.  My real passion would be animals.  We have 3 dogs, a Great Dane, Ragnar who will be 8 in August, and 2 Great Dane/Plott Hound mix brothers, Guinness and JD who will be a year March 23rd!  We also have 6 cats an ancient domestic short hair orange tabby male named Scurvy, a white domestic shorthair female named White Cat, 2 domestic long hair calico sisters named Kelala and Keroro, and 2 domestic shorthair/Siamese mix siblings named Kanga and Roo.  Kanga was born with deformities and has her own Facebook page:  https://www.facebook.com/pages/Kanga-the-Special-Needs-Squitten/366763336743182

My family calls me Murphy, because whatever can go wrong WILL.  The most unbelievable, bizarre situations seem to happen to me.  I like to think of myself as ridiculously laid back.  I try to look at the bigger picture and take everything into account.  However sometimes I am accused of being judgmental, but wrong is wrong, sorry period.  I TRY not to stuff my views down other’s throats, since I certainly don’t appreciate it when other people do it to me.  I hope for this little blog to be a sounding board for me when I need to rant or vent.  I hope people enjoy it, and for the most part I hope for it to be humorous.  I would like to share my experiences, rants, observations, maybe some recipes, reviews etc!  I kind of don’t expect anyone to read this, but if you do this please sit back and enjoy!  Oh and BTW in case you didn’t notice, I’m a MASSIVE rambler!

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